Practical tips for online hypnotherapy

Therapy in the time of the Covid-19 lockdown: how to maximise and enjoy your new online therapy experience
Apr 1, 2020
Michele Occelli

Online hypnotherapy works just as deeply and as powerfully as face to face hypnotherapy. I have worked with clients abroad throughout the past years and every time the process has been deeply meaningful and far reaching. But there are some practical differences between walking out of your home to come and sit in my therapy studio, and being in your home and accessing the therapy through your computer. Because there are practical differences I think it is useful to lay out some good tips on how to practically create the best set up for your online hypnotherapy sessions.

  1. Figure out where your wifi or mobile connection has the best reception, so that you can find a spot in your home where the video meeting/call works well.
  2. Close other computer programs on your screen, to avoid anything popping up while we work or beeping or interrupting the session or connection.
  3. Switch off your phone.
  4. Allow a few minutes of quiet before your session, so that there’s a buffer zone between whatever you are doing and the time of therapy.
  5. Make sure there’s enough light in the room, I need to see you. Ideally don’t wear black, or very dark colours
  6. Pour yourself a glass of water, or make yourself a cup of tea, we will begin the session with a conversation, it’s good to have something to drink before we begin working with hypnosis.
  7. If you have headphones, and you generally tend of listen to music on headphones, then do wear them, they can allow you a greater feeling of confidentiality and bring my voice closer to you. That said, they are not necessary and the session will work just fine if you do not have them.
  8. What happens if the connection fails mid-session while you are in hypnosis? Very simple, you will enjoy staying in hypnosis for a few minutes quietly by yourself. Then you will naturally bring yourself back, this is simply what happens. And then you can give me a call and we will start the video again from where we left.
  9. Don’t jump straight back into your work, e-mails, house chores, flatmates, family, or partner. Allow some time and space after the session, to digest. This could be 10 min, or an hour, it’s up to you.

Feel free to always share any concerns, doubts or feelings about any aspect of hypnotherapy, including the medium we are going to use, simply talk to me about it.

Feb 3, 2018
The courage to express

One important aspect of the hypnotic experience is the continuity between trance and the so called ‘waking state’. What do I mean by this? I mean that in hypnosis you are conscious and have an awareness of being conscious during the experience. You will both experience and at the same time consciously record and observe what you experience. And I think this is a very powerful quality to states like hypnosis and meditation, they are readily integrated into our conscious self.

This reflects on the feeling that we are left with when we come out of a trance, a form of confidence and clarity, an increase in our self-belief. Often to believe in ourselves can mean to narrow who we understand ourselves to be, strong beliefs are seldomly open and embracing beliefs. Shaking our beliefs is essential, and sometimes it feels that the only to shake our acquired or chosen beliefs is to crack the self open with a crowbar.  In hypnosis we are gently yet markedly expanding that sense of self whilst experiencing a connectedness to both the self and its inner capacity to expand which gives us a strong sense of agency. It is not this thing or that thing which gives you a ticket to a higher experience, it is you who can shift your perception and experience greater depth, higher perspectives, and fuller texture.

Like almost anything in life, it is easier to find our way whilst in the company of another human than it is to do so alone. Having the support and guidance of another person without them directing and informing your experience makes accessing that experience as easy and as drinking a glass of water.

Once you are out of trance the feeling of what you have experienced and allowed yourself to express to yourself will pour out into your everyday life, giving you the courage to express and allow expression to develop and manifest. This comes in part from the very way in which trance arises from within and brings out our deeper feelings and thoughts, memories and sensations, but also from the very closeness we experience to our deeper self in trance. It gives us courage to be close and intimate with who we are and what we feel, think, and sense. This intimacy is the only true requirement to health and growth, once we are comfortable to be with ourselves we are comfortable to be with the world.

Image : page from a Ragamala Series: Gujari Ragini, Pali, Marwar, 1623 (National Museum Of India)

Feb 3, 2018
Hypnosis and the scenic route to a meaningful life.

One of the fathers of modern hypnotherapy, the French physician Hippolyte Bernheim writes in De la suggestion et de ses applications à la thérapeutique (Suggestive Therapeutics: A Treatise on the Nature and Uses of Hypnotism, 1888) - hypnosis is ‘the production of a dynamic change in the nervous system of a person…by another person by means of the calling forth of representations or ideas’

Long title and a complex sentence, what does it actually mean? At its essence, it means that in hypnosis, an ‘idea’ gives rise to a dynamic in the body – a thought initiates the development of a process, in the body. And of course, a dynamic in the body can give rise to an idea, a realisation, in the mind. As I experience trance, an image appears, a memory arises, I ‘hear’ inner words, and together with it, I notice a feeling, a sensation, a movement giving rise to smiles, tears, laughter, muscle release, adjustments. My mind and my body begin a conversation, or perhaps I let go of the distractions which generally prevent me from being aware of this constant creative flow of communication which is the reality of my mind/body. As the therapist holds space for me to fully immerse in the richness of this dialogue, I experience a shift, a moving away from self-doubt, inner conflict, struggle, towards an experience of deep listening, trusting and eventually flow.

Does a hypnotic trance cause this dynamics? Perhaps it is more accurate to say that in a hypnotic trance I am able to pay close attention to the subtle meaningful ongoing natural dynamics of my mind/body. As I am fully supported into paying closer attention to the dynamics of my embodied self, a healthy positive feedback is established, which increases their resonance while allowing me to register into awareness their significance. If I make myself quiet enough to listen, the creative inner intelligence of my mind/body will be freer to affect change, bring balance, clear blockages and release what is no longer useful.

Rather than constantly talking over my somatic self, I am openly receiving the communication. This is a fundamental step, it not only opens the channels which allow for that communication to become clearer, it also develops our capacity to being ok and comfortable with that communication, making it potentially smoother and gentler rather than harsh and violent. This is a necessary skill and a fundamental resource for our development. If we listen to our embodied voice, if we give it space, it doesn’t have to shout. When it shouts, we get a panic attack, we can’t sleep, our shoulder aches, our neck gets stiff, we feel our heartbeat race when we are in a public space, we can’t speak in front of an audience without freezing, and so on.

And so we start walking on the long meaningful mesmerising challenging scenic route of our healing. Our healing is our understanding, not a conceptual understanding but a somatic tuning in to the awareness of who we are and how our experience relates to us meaningfully. When we listen, we allow those gaps and cracks which often create an inner felt sense of disconnection and void to start filling up, we become fuller, even though we might feel lighter. And yes it sounds a bit like magic and it is pretty magical, so is everything else you experience every day really, if you just pay attention.  

Image : Vishnu sleeping upon his multi-headed serpent Shesha over the ocean of consciousness from Sage Merkandeya's Ashram and the Milky Ocean (folio 5 from the Durga Charit, Jodhpur, ca. 1780-90, Mehrangarh Museum Trust).

Feb 3, 2018
Hypnosis and creativity

Hypnosis is a powerful way to access unmediated creative resources. Creative resources can be often tarnished by our tendency to over-reflect, by our exposure to stress, by many other factors which detract from the creative impulse, or from the capacity to fully immerse in the creative process itself. With hypnosis the person can find a level of focus which quietens the dualistic experience of the mind and allows for a surrendering to one’s own subtle internal experience which can starkly regenerate the creative thrust. Individuals will find their mind has 'unblocked' allowing them to reconnect with a direct and vivid creative experience. As such, hypnosis can deepen, reframe, and expand an artist relationship with their medium, very often with surprising and exciting results. This is have witnessed over and over again, with writers, visual artists, dancers and with artists of thoughts, i.e. philosophers and theorists.

Is creativity a process of hammering at some kind of content until it has transformed into an evidently creative ‘thing’, an artefact? Is it the product of labour and effort and determination? Yes, and no. It certainly requires thinking and labouring to manifest the creative impulse and the creative insight into some external form, it might then require strategizing, alertness to context and good social skills to bring that form out into the creative field so that it can be appreciated and perhaps acquired by the public. But it is more often than not a matter of silencing the thinking mind and releasing effort the first fundamental step from which the idea for that creative act arises. In endlessly different ways artists receive an idea, witness a bubble bursting from the depth of their unconscious into awareness. The imagination needs to be unfettered to resonate with creative content, not pushed around by need or wishes to success and recognition, by fear of failure or doubts of direction, this any successful artist who enjoys his/her practice knows.

Hypnosis, so as many other techniques of course, can release the fetters we have added onto our imagination through all the experiences of success and failure which have been laid upon our past. All good and bad experiences from the simplest responses we got as a toddler to our wondering about on four legs, to the more articulate ones of later life brought about by expert critique and feedback weigh down our imagination with some kind of visible perimeter of possibility. The work is to erase that visible perimeter and break out of the enclosure we are electing around our selves, and expand the field to infinity, or beyond.

The difference between hypnosis and other approaches is that it capitalises on our natural innate already very powerful capacity to daydream, to trance, to drift off and the fact that such state is inherently pleasurable and nourishing therefore a place where all minds like to be allowed to go to. The other advantage of the hypnotic process is that it is made easier by the presence of a witness, the therapist, which mounts the sails so that the traveller can simply enjoy the journey and take in the landscape. If the therapist understands the subtlety of the creative process, and the tenderness of the imagination, he/she can nudge the journey so that it stays on the powerful currents already in place within, and through them, reaches as far as the inner eye can see.

Image : A sonorous figure excited on a circular steel plate, CYMATICS : A Study of Wave Phenomena and Vibration, Hans Jenny (Macromedia Publishing 2001)

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